Relationship Counselling: Do You Know Your Shame Style?

Relationship Counselling: Do you know your shame style?

  Shame is a humiliating push-pull response and is often present in couples counselling. We both feel a need and prepare ourselves for the hurt we may feel when that need is unlikely to be met. We all feel it, it is a normal part of being human. We all have different ways of protecting […]


Counselling into the light

A day off, a walk along Princess Street on a sunny day, who should I run into but an old client who I had counselled for a prolonged period through 2014-15. They had faced personal challenges, true despair at times and had come to me for counselling. Here we were today, standing chatting in the […]


From Soul Mate to Stalemate

Are you arguing over small things, feeling bored with each other and now finding it impossible resolve issues yourselves? Maybe you feel misunderstood by your partner and in need of extra help to improve your daily lives. Owning up to an affair, your true feelings or hidden addictions and issues can leave you feeling particularly […]


Snow, not so splendid isolation

The recent heavy snow has led to temporary disruption in people’s everyday routines, isolation from friends and family and can make us feel more anxious and uncertain. Sometimes snow brings a sense of community with people pulling together to share food supplies and clear each other’s paths. It can also be a reminder of who […]


Finding your path

It’s February. Spring is just around the corner and the new year rolls into memory. Or does it? So how are you coping? Are you feeling positive, enthusiastic looking to the future or are you plodding along still buried in the past? Deciding on a positive direction can require you to address the issues that […]


Help with January Blues

If things are difficult, you’re struggling to cope and you decide that you need to make changes in your life where do you start? It starts, and ends, with you. If you’re going to question your lifestyle, your relationships, your goals, knowing the right questions to ask can be the start of improving your quality […]


Couples Counselling Edinburgh

Are you communicating in a fixed and rigid way in some situations? Do you feel a combination of criticism of the other and defensiveness or vulnerability in yourself? Do you each put up barriers, stifling intimacy and the capacity to speak openly about feelings and needs? All these are common reasons to enter relationship counselling. […]